My Written Response to a Vid

Im writing because my camera is not charged to do a vid response and I have to get it out before I forget it.

Here's the Vid from Ask A GTv



My Response:
I totally get what you are saying about the softness in certain women and the lack of softness in some. I still believe that its not a race issue though. That softness factor to me, comes from the type of environment that you were raised in. I'm not talking about if you were raised in the hood or suburbs, but the I guess...stability of your household.
If you have a female that was raised strictly by a mother who had animosity towards their father. I don't think she is going to be the one to hold her tongue quickly.

In comparison to a chick that was raised with both parents in the home. OK... she gets the whole
concept...well traditional concept of gender roles in a relationship.

Myself I was raised by my mom. But there wasn't any negativity ever placed on my father... or positivity either lol that topic was just hush hush. I also had a grandfather and grandmother who played a major role in my upbringing. So i pretty much saw how the relationship thing was suppose to go... but still whether i want to or not... I mimic my mother.

What I notice in my relationships is that i gel better with a guy who was also raised in a single parent home.... particularly by the mother. It's like O SHIT this guy gets me, or we have a better understanding of each other, in which traditional gender roles are irrelevant.

its another, story when in a relationship with a guy that came from the traditional family. He comes with his views on how the relationship things suppose to go. I come with my own... and they just don't match.

Yea... I consider most women (but not all) who come from a complete household to be "softer" than myself. And sometimes they appear to be a puppet...to me...meaning their guy makes more decisions for them than they do own their own. BUT HEY...that's just me.

But then... my experience with "quick to blow a fuse" women... they seem to have a much tougher childhood than me. Therefore i believe they do lack softness. But it shouldn't be held against them. I do think they can tune it down a little, and realize that if you are with a good guy, you don't need to have your guard up...so high.

In conclusion... the "softness" of a women shouldn't have to do with race. Even though it does seem that more blk women lack the softness. So... I wonder why that is? Could it be the blk man? Maybe...but if true, I'm not going to hold it against ALL blk men.

:)